What I learned during an emotionally charged, frustrating phone call with the headmistress of my son’s (soon to be former) school:
- I am more in control when I don’t respond to anything implied, but only to what is explicitly said.
- Keeping it short works, as does not giving into the temptation to justify or explain.
I hear you are considering leaving the school.
- It’s possible to stop someone short by saying “I agree completely” and nothing else.
This move will be extremely disruptive to your son.
I agree completely
- Ranting about a laundry list of minor complaints adds nothing.
- I don’t have to reply to questions. “I’m not going to answer that” is an answer.
- There is no point rehashing old arguments; it is frustrating and counterproductive.
- When I’m more gracious and less horrid, I win.